When you first have a child, you automatically think about the small things like diapers, tummy time, and milestones. While these things are important, they constantly consume your thoughts and time and you always question if you are doing things right, or need to improve in an area or aspect of your life, or your child’s life. Actually, I think a lot of parents think that they are doing everything wrong and they constantly worry about it. They compare themselves to other moms and dads and compare their baby to other babies, but when it comes down to it, everyone is different and we shouldn’t be constantly worrying about the small things because chances are that you are doing those small things right.

As the months and years go by, those babies end up being toddlers and young children. They begin to crawl, walk, play, and eat solid food. With all of these achievements comes more fear. More worry. This trend continues throughout all of the years. I don’t think it ever goes away – there will always be something to worry about no matter if it is falling on the playground, or if they are dating the right person when they are older.

So, since we cannot change the worry that comes with parenting, what we can do instead is focusing on the things that we can change. We can focus on making sure that our children are healthy by providing nutritious food, taking them to doctor appointments, and teaching them about simple hygiene. We can make sure they have a good foundation by trying to instill all of the morals that we have at an early age. And, we can help make them happy by showing them what a good life looks like. These three things all have one thing in common – your child will look to you as a guide on what life should look like. This is why I believe that yes, it is important to focus on your child, but at the same time, you need to also focus on yourself. Here are the things I want my kids to know about me and one day, pick up themselves:

I am a hard worker

One of the most important things that I want them to learn from my example is that you don’t get anywhere by sitting on the couch. The way to get places in life is by going out there and putting in the hours of hard work. Hard work is the only way to make your dreams and goals happen.

I can do anything I set my mind to

No matter what others say, you can always do what you set your mind to. All it takes is a little hard work. You may have to work towards it for a while, but you will eventually get there!

Challenges only make me stronger

There are always going to be challenges in your life. Maybe it is the people you are working with, the work you are doing, or maybe you are just having a bad day. Whatever it is, challenges only make you stronger. There is a phrase that they say in Pure Barre. It is: “It doesn’t get easier. You get better.” You can apply that quote into your everyday life because no matter how easy or hard your day is, you are the only one that can control your outcome. When you go through challenges, you only learn and grow from them. They will make you stronger and better in the end.

I accept when I have too much on my plate

Accepting when you have too much work on your plate is not a failure. Focus on what you are best at and delegate other tasks. For example, with my blog (and with a lot of bloggers and business owners in general), I am best at creating content. I’m not the best at promoting that content and learning marketing tactics to work on my SEO. That’s okay! There are people like NJ SEO to do that for you. NJ SEO Company expert, Matt Anton along with his brother Dan Anton run NJ SEO with two locations – one in New Jersey and one in Georgia. If you want to appear on the first page of Google, they are the company to work with!

According to their website, “We offer professional SEO services that help websites increase their organic search score drastically in order to compete for the highest rankings — even when it comes to highly competitive keywords.” After 12 years in marketing, this family-run business will help you achieve your goals, without you having to do all of the work.

It is possible to have a work-life balance

A work-life balance is so important to succeed. If you get too overwhelmed and focus only on work, you will eventually get burnt out. To avoid that, make sure you have a balance between your work and your social life. You cannot have one without the other!