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December 30, 2018 reina

A year consists of 12 months but for a blogger even less than a year is forever.

Being more than a golden lady (a senior citizen @ 68), the desire to become a better blogger has never been more inspirational as these few months when I arrived NEW YORK. Really? Really! This has to be admitted because of the following reasons using the flagship themes of Reinmatters.com as follows: PARENTING, RETIREMENT, FAMILY, HOME, LIFESTYLE.

For this blog, focus is given only to PARENTING.

PARENTING

Parenting has taken various shades of meaning especially when the onset of Internet and Social Media in the forefront.

For one, a person can become a parent through various ways: by natural means like biologically having the baby;

For another, there is legal adoption; and

Still for another, there is symbiotic decision to care for a relative if only to provide basic needs and education.

As the demands of parenting increase in its impact, the styles of parenting come into the picture.

We referred to Google and Yahoo to deepen the discussion about Parenting Styles.

According to our source: athealth.com/topics/parenting-style-

Parenting Style and Its Correlates Developmental psychologists have been interested in how parents influence the development of children’s social and instrumental competence since at least the 1920s. One of the most robust approaches to this area is the study of what has been called “parenting style.”

wehavekids.com

Helicopter parenting is a style of parenting where the parents tend to be involved in every aspect of their child’s life to the extent of over involvement. These parents constantly interact with and often interfere with their children’s lives to ensure the safety and security of their child, but this often leads to smothering (McGolerick, 2011).

www.ericdigests.org/1999

Parenting Style and Its Correlates. ERIC Digest. Developmental psychologists have been interested in how parents influence the development of children’s social and instrumental competence since at least the 1920s. One of the most robust approaches to this area is the study of what has been called “parenting style.”

www.dcya.gov.ie/documents/publications/Parents..

Parents’ Perspectives on Parenting Styles and Disciplining Children 2 parenting styles and discipline strategies adopted by parents with their children, including a focus on physical punishment; attitudes to and awareness of legislation on physical punishment of children in Ireland.

Back to this blogger, she became a parent at 26 years old. Her first born is a girl who brought happiness to her parents in 1977. The next children are all boys: Ben was born 1979; Nathan was born 1980; and Boni was born in 1984.

Parenting four (4) children and sending them to Ateneo Schools became some of the most vital factors why they grew up God-fearing, better God-loving and respectful to their parents.

Parenting is a lifetime task so our original number of 6 became 5 when the Head of the family, Boni Sr. died. The head of the family from then on was the mother who through the years, still wonder how she managed to make the children remain close to each other through thick and thin. Now, the family of five (5) has become six (6) and with the coming of the first grand child has become a family of seven (7).

Parenting styles go with the situation of the family. Every member contributes in deciding what style of helping each other develop holistically truly works. And it should not be forgotten that another member of the family: the family pet dog – Michael – two of them, one called Michael 1 during our Davao years and another one (named Michael 2) during our Malaybalay/Cagayan de Oro City stay.

With 2018 about to end, the Sabana-Aserios clan is grateful to God for the blessings.

I am a parent but I am not all alone in my parenting. Every member of the family contributes in making the house a home.

www. reinmatters.com tried to exhaust blog posts about PARENTING but to our amazement, blogs posts along the lines of PARENTING cannot be limited to the years then up to 2018. So, expect www.reinmatters.com to pursue this theme for as long as www.reinmatters.com exists.

In the meantime, we gradually say goodbye to 2018 and eagerly await the coming of the NEW YEAR…2019.

To all of you fellow netizens and fellow Parents, fellow bloggers, influencers…Cheers!

December 19, 2018 reina

Humans as we are, part of our humanity is the feeling of homesickness. It attacks you anytime, anywhere and before you ares aware of it, your tears just begin falling down your cheeks. Some tips are in order for sanity and order: Tips how to overcome Homesickness Attack (OHA) while in New York City or anywhere in the world. Homesickness as an attack should not be taken literally. Attack is used to mean that homesickness is like a reflex action. It comes or surfaces without much thought. It is triggered by the surroundings we are in or movie we are watching or play we are looking at or a pet being cuddled by its loving owner. Precisely because it is natural ergo rational, it can be overcome.

We offer at least six (6) tips to combat OHA.

1) Homesickness comes from two words: home and sickness. As such it is good to think of our loved ones from home and remember you are away from them because of them. Sickness in this context is not physical but emotional so like a “dis ease”.

2) To overcome this “attack” and “dis ease” is to catalyze these feelings through your gift of openness and positive attitude towards life situations;

3) Since homesickness confronts you any time and/or any where then have your journal ready to release the present state of your mind at the time of its occurrence. So be ready with your cell phone to take pictures of extraordinarily beautiful sights to redirect your energies or eat your favorite food or dessert or begin to write in your journal;

4) Being homesick myself, my” defense” is “offense”. My daughter is presently working here in New York City and she herself shared her Homesickness Attacks (OHA) and one effective defense she actually did and was successful in doing so was to cry when there was need and called home once time allowed her – what with the 12 hour delay between US and Asia. Even her beloved dog was aware of the homesickness so part of the call was to communicate via Duo Messenger, face-to-face hi’s and hello’s. This back and forth communication was regular especially on week-ends;

5) Use all your gifts to “pay forward”, more specifically when you have been blessed abundantly. Life’s ambivalence is in giving not in receiving. This is made more poignant when the recipient of your generosity is really experiencing life’s worst trials;

6) As in Desiderata: we echo: “With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Strive to be happy.” In relation to OHA, strive to wear it with a smile and hope for a better tomorrow.

Every OHA ends…